Sobanukirwa ubwoba butera indwara yo gutinya gushaka umugore

Mu muryango nyarwanda ndetse no ku isi muri rusange, hari igihe kigera bikaba ingenzi cyane guhitamo umukunzi muzubakana umuryango uzabakomokaho. Nubwo ari ingenzi gushaka umufasha ariko hari abasore bamwe batinya gushaka abagore cyangwa se gutinya inshingano yo kubaka umuryango. Iki kibazo cyo gutinya gushaka, ni indwara yitwa “Gamophobia”

Iby’ingenzi kuri iyi ndwara

Indwara yo gutinya gushaka umugore, yagaragaye cyane mu gihe cy’imyaka ya vuba, igaragaza ikibazo cyo kubura ukwizera ku bagabo bafite ibibazo mu mibanire yabo n’abagore. Abantu bafite iyi ndwara akenshi bibwira ko batabashije kuba abashakanye beza cyangwa se bagira ubwoba ko batakaza ubuzima bwabo bw’ibyishimo igihe bashatse.

Iyo ndwara ikunze guturuka ku bintu byinshi bitandukanye, harimo n’ubushobozi buke mu guhanga udushya, gutinya kwishora mu bikorwa byo gufata inshingano, cyangwa se ibibazo by’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe nko kugira agahinda, isoni cyangwa ubwoba bwo guhangana n’ibibazo bizabaho nyuma yo gushaka. Abantu bafite iyi ndwara bashobora no kuba barahuye n’ibibazo bimwe na bimwe mu mibanire yabo, nka kugirana amakimbirane mu muryango cyangwa se kubura uko bakwitwara mu gihe bagize amahirwe yo kugira inshingano nk’izo.

Ibimenyetso by’iyi ndwara

• Ubwoba bwo guhura n’umukunzi: Umugabo utarashaka umugore, ashobora kugira ubwoba bwo gusanga umugore cyangwa se kujya mu biganiro birimo kwitabira inshingano zo kubaka urugo. Akenshi aba arimo kubura ubwizere muri we.
• Kubura ukwizera mu rugo: Umuntu wahuye n’iyi ndwara ashobora kugira ikibazo cyo kutagira icyizere mu rugo cyangwa mu mibanire. Ashobora kuba yumva ko ibibazo bizaza igihe cyose, bigatuma adashobora guhatana n’inshingano nk’izo.
• Kugira ibitekerezo byo kwihishahisha: Abantu bafite iyo ndwara bashobora no kugerageza kwihishahisha inyuma y’icyo gitekerezo cyo gushaka umugore. Bashobora kuba barabitewe n’uko batekereza ko bashobora gukorwa nabi cyangwa bagahura n’ikibazo mu mibanire y’urugo.

Uko ushobora gufasha abantu bafite iyi ndwara

• Guhugura no kuganira: Kugira ibiganiro byimbitse, bitanga ubwisanzure ku muntu waba afite ubwoba bwo gushaka umugore. Gukoresha ubuhanga mu guhindura ibitekerezo no kuganira ku bibazo biterwa n’iyi ndwara birafasha cyane.
• Kwimakaza ubutabera: Kwimakaza imico myiza no kugerageza guha umuntu ukeneye kugera ku nzozi ze aho kugira ubwoba mu kugera ku ntego.
• Kubona ubufasha bw’abajyanama mu by’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe: Ku bantu bafite ibibazo bikomeye ku bijyanye n’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe, gusaba ubufasha ku bajyanama mu by’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe ni ingenzi cyane.

Icyo twakwigira kuri iyi ndwara

Indwara yo gutinya gushaka umugore ni ikibazo cyubaka ku magambo y’ubwoba, ariko ibyo twakwiga ni uko mu gihe umuntu afite ubushake bwo gufasha no kubana n’abandi mu buryo bwiza, ubushobozi bwo guhangana n’ibibazo buriyongera. Icyo umuntu agomba kumenya ni uko abantu bashobora guhindura imitekerereze yabo kandi bagashobora gukora amahitamo meza mu mibanire yabo, bibafasha kubaka umuryango uhamye kandi utekanye.

Gutsinda iyi ndwara bisaba:

1. Kwigira ku byiza by’umuryango no kumva inshingano z’umugabo.
2. Kwigisha abantu gushaka umugore mu buryo bwiza kandi bufite intego.
3. Guhugura imyumvire myiza n’ubwuzu ku bibazo bishobora kugaragara mu rugo.

Mu gusoza, nubwo indwara yo gutinya gushaka umugore ishobora kugorana, hari uburyo bwinshi bwo kuyirwanya no gufasha abantu kugira amahoro mu mibanire yabo. Niba umuntu afite ubushake bwo guhindura, ashobora guharanira gukora ibishoboka byose kugira ngo abashe gutera intambwe mu nzira yo kubaka urugo rwiza kandi rwigarurira.